Why You Should Love, Not Loathe, Your Baggage
Hold on to your baggage–it is what defines you, not destroys you. See the world, love deeply, embrace the pain that has shaped who you are.
Looking for True Love? Find Your Tribe
We can create our own family. And we can find romance with our friends. According to the Greeks, philia or tribal love is the highest form of love there is.
How to Make a Rainbow Out Of Motherly Love
“To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power. Or the climbing, falling colors of a rainbow.” -Maya Angelou My daughter loves rainbows, so I want be forever arching with colors for her. She doesn’t yet know that rainbows are more...
Is Passionate Love Worth Your Sanity?
I’ve been reading through my old writings, you know all the ones about passionate love and passionate love lost. They made me slightly famous, after all, back in the day. I wrote these essays and poems as a single woman living in San Francisco, passionately seeking...
I’m Sick of People Preaching “Self Love” and Here’s Why
“Now is a time for self love,” said the bead-wearing yogi instructor. “Prioritize yourself, love thyself.” I was on a retreat trying to replenish my identity after separation and new single mamahood. “Take time for yourself.” “Do what YOU want” says, like, everyone....
To Be What You Want to Be, Stop Wanting and Doing….
Do. Have. Be. Do Be? To Be? No I am not talking about the Doobie Brothers. Or Hamlet. I’m talking about the struggle we have in ourselves. We all want to Be something, right? Be happy. Be wealthy. Be beautiful. Be calm. Be secure. Be loved. Oftentimes it feels...
Are You Stuck in a Creative Rut? Three Ways to Get Out
I stared at the blank page so long I started to see Rorschach figures in the white. I had writer’s block bad. There was nothing to write about, nothing to say. My life was either too confidential for mass consumption OR it was too boring. (likely the latter as the...
Time Stressed? 5 Hacks for an Additional 30 Minutes Each Day
Everyone is time stressed. Waking up earlier just borrows time from the evening. I’m on a mission to focus more but even focusing requires time on the calendar. Afterall, I need a good 30 minutes to get into “Flow state” for anything whether it’s playing with my...
Why you Should Stop Everything and Do this ONE Thing for Success.
I'm a Type-A success fueled being. But over the years that desire for success has meant I try to do 100 things at the same time. Deep down I knew I was taking on too much. I was trying to balance taking care of my amazing almost-4-year-old with A very busy career...
Stop Being An Angelic People Pleaser
I’m reading the book, The Girl with the Louding Voice. It’s about a young Nigerian girl who longs for education so she can find her voice to stand up for herself. She stops being a people pleaser so that she can please herself. Unlike the protagonist in the story, I...
