Hold on to your baggage–it is what defines you, not destroys you. See the world, love deeply, embrace the pain that has shaped who you are.
Life Hacks
I’m Sick of People Preaching “Self Love” and Here’s Why
“Now is a time for self love,” said the bead-wearing yogi instructor. “Prioritize yourself, love thyself.” I was on a retreat trying to replenish my identity after separation and new single mamahood. “Take time for yourself.” “Do what YOU want” says, like, everyone....
To Be What You Want to Be, Stop Wanting and Doing….
Do. Have. Be. Do Be? To Be? No I am not talking about the Doobie Brothers. Or Hamlet. I’m talking about the struggle we have in ourselves. We all want to Be something, right? Be happy. Be wealthy. Be beautiful. Be calm. Be secure. Be loved. Oftentimes it feels...
Are You Stuck in a Creative Rut? Three Ways to Get Out
I stared at the blank page so long I started to see Rorschach figures in the white. I had writer’s block bad. There was nothing to write about, nothing to say. My life was either too confidential for mass consumption OR it was too boring. (likely the latter as the...
Time Stressed? 5 Hacks for an Additional 30 Minutes Each Day
Everyone is time stressed. Waking up earlier just borrows time from the evening. I’m on a mission to focus more but even focusing requires time on the calendar. Afterall, I need a good 30 minutes to get into “Flow state” for anything whether it’s playing with my...
Why you Should Stop Everything and Do this ONE Thing for Success.
I'm a Type-A success fueled being. But over the years that desire for success has meant I try to do 100 things at the same time. Deep down I knew I was taking on too much. I was trying to balance taking care of my amazing almost-4-year-old with A very busy career...
Stop Being An Angelic People Pleaser
I’m reading the book, The Girl with the Louding Voice. It’s about a young Nigerian girl who longs for education so she can find her voice to stand up for herself. She stops being a people pleaser so that she can please herself. Unlike the protagonist in the story, I...
What Should Your Legacy Be?
My friend Carrie had escaped cancer. (hurrah!) However during the surgery and wait to find out if the mass was malignant or benign there was time, too much time, to think. Legacy. Purpose. Love. All the things we question when we face our own inevitable mortality....
How to Do the Whole30 Diet with a Toddler
“I like your stomach Mommy,” said my daughter Vivi. It’s all squishy.” Like many, I had Pandemic Body.™ But that wasn’t why I started the Whole30 Diet with a toddler in the house. Sure I was squishy but I was also slow, irritable and had regular rosacea breakouts...
How to Survive (and Enjoy) Going to a Wedding Solo …
Going to a wedding solo, without a date, always feels a bit uncomfortable. Kinda like you are the clownfish in a sea of coupled up lovers and schools of old friends. I just went to a wedding in southern Idaho where I only knew ONE person, the groom. The groom always...
Frazzled Coping Strategies – What to Do When You Lose your Phone (Again)
Do You Feel Like Beaker from The Muppets? I Do. Some might call me frazzled. Others, an overly imaginative soul. They are not wrong. I am chronically afraid I left the burner on, the door unlocked, and lost my phone in the toilet. No, not because I am OCD (have you...
Is the Love for Your Child Dysfunctional? Relax, it’s Normal …
“True or false: If you’re not frustrated with your kids, you’re not spending enough time with them…” “But I love spending EVERY second with my daughter,” I said aghast. An older, wiser mom looked at me, laughed and poured herself more wine. You haven’t entered the...
Is Resentment Poisoning Your Life? 5 Tips to Move On
“Remember, Heidi,” said my neighbor as I complained. “Resentment is like drinking poison hoping the other person dies.” I nodded. I had been doing so well on my positivity journey . But today I wanted to show everyone my middle finger. Yup - I had swallowed A LOT of...
Why You Can’t Find the One (and Why It’s Ok): Part 3
“And then like that, he was gone. Why is it so hard to keep the one, after we find them?” asked Katie. Katie had just experienced another heart wrenching breakup. She’s been chasing “the one” for 20 frantic years. Career, social life, and self identity were hastily...
When People Don’t Want to Hear Your Truth
Other people shut down my truth “Look at the abundance you have. Get a grip, Heidi.” I spit out my coffee. Woah. I was being accused of “broadcasting my woes” as a one dimensional banshee. These weren’t the type of Instagram comments I expected at 6am. The comments...
2020 Destroyed My Life, So I’m Creating a New One
2020 Destroyed My Life as I Knew It. Before the 2020 pandemic, I had a committed partnership, a house in a beautiful neighborhood and a cush job in innovation where I was flown to New York to speak at conferences. As I walk out of the pandemic in Spring 2021,...
Five Awesome Things the Pandemic Has Done for Me (The Pandemefits)
The pandemic has tested my family’s sanity. We’ve turned our house into a joint office / daycare center. We multitask endless zoom calls alongside dishwasher unloading, toddler butt wiping (video off) and remote happy hours (video on)…..
Five Reasons to Get to the Mountains NOW
“Climb the mountains and get their good tidings. Nature's peace will flow into you as sunshine flows into trees.” John Muir As soon as we approached Auburn on the I80 and saw the Sierra mountains in the distance, something happened.The stress that had been gripping my...
How the 2020 End of Days is Slowly Killing Me
It was the end of 2020 end of days. Pantone Orange 9-2020. Images of the orange sky in California went viral. Looking at the sun confused my daughter. She thought the orb in the sky was a bleeding moon. She wanted to give it a band-aid. I didn’t know if the earth...
Two Words to Increase Your Happiness
Happiness? Ha! My life resembles a Jerry Springer show. In the past few months there have been love triangles, confusing betrayals, and severe illness. I’m not sure how to make sense of it all. Yet, as tantalizing as the details may seem, what happened to me is...
How Writing Weekly on Medium Changed My Life
One year ago I gave myself a challenge to post one blog post each week on Medium. Why? I wanted to see if this writing hobby of mine had any merit. Nothing better than a self imposed rule with the hashtag #humpdayheidi. With friend and family encouragement, I...