Life Hacks

How to Mess Up Your Online Identity (#FAIL)

How to Mess Up Your Online Identity (#FAIL)

"The Web can and will influence how others perceive you, both personally and professionally” Sigh. In the past month I’ve sent people to porn, tweeted out my neuroses, participated in humblebragging, and enabled my burning man photos to go viral. When it came to...

My Dirty Secret

My Dirty Secret

It was one of those San Francisco drizzle dusks where you couldn’t tell where the fog ended and the rainclouds started.  Dressed in a black trench coat, I met an old colleague outside the warm glow of a Brasserie sign. It was time to confide a dark secret. “You’ll...

Stop Talking: Making Less More.

Stop Talking: Making Less More.

We’ve all heard the phrase “Less is more” but how often to we really employ this?  We are always seeking “more.”  Say more, do more, be more. As another birthday descends upon me, I feel a case of the ‘more neuroses’ coming on. Have I done enough? Or is my life one...

Imperfectly Naked

Imperfectly Naked

Last month I received a postcard from Champasak,Vietnam. It was from my high school friend Tim. After getting his PhD from MIT, he decided to turn down lucrative offers and buy a boat to sail around the world for a few years.  “F*** what I’m supposed to do. This is...

3 Ways To Indulge like a Parisian

3 Ways To Indulge like a Parisian

From food to fashion to love....how to let seduction take over...gracefully. I first thought it best to start my new job with restraint and productivity.  I went on a detox cleanse, wore sensible shoes, and went to bed early.  And then I was sent to Paris. As I...

Things Not Posted on Facebook

A college friend came to visit recently and remarked, “Wow, you’ve really made it in San Francisco. I can tell from your posts on Facebook.”  Er. That was right after another friend called me out for ‘humble brag’ on a recent post about a secret admirer.  I realized...

How to Live Life and Love it!

How to Live Life and Love it!

The first message I received on Valentines Day went something like this: heidi,this is the first time I’ve looked at facebook in 5 months or so. i wanted to tell you that i love how much you live your life. few people ever live truly, and so most people might as well...

Be Naked: A Weekend in Esalen

Be Naked: A Weekend in Esalen

Rather than juggle Memorial Day barbecues, I decided to head back down to Big Sur for the long weekend. No, this time I wasn’t going to a monastery to think impure thoughts. Rather I was going to Esalen to not think and be impure. Heading to Esalen Esalen is a...

Not Thinking About Sex in a Monastery

Not Thinking About Sex in a Monastery

Hedonism and asceticism have always been fundamental parts of American culture. Never able to completely stay true to one path, we take turns diving into each, using one to wash us from the pleasurable guilt of the other. In pursuit of a little of each for writing...