Hold on to your baggage–it is what defines you, not destroys you. See the world, love deeply, embrace the pain that has shaped who you are.
Mamahood
How to Make a Rainbow Out Of Motherly Love
“To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power. Or the climbing, falling colors of a rainbow.” -Maya Angelou My daughter loves rainbows, so I want be forever arching with colors for her. She doesn’t yet know that rainbows are more...
Is the Love for Your Child Dysfunctional? Relax, it’s Normal …
“True or false: If you’re not frustrated with your kids, you’re not spending enough time with them…” “But I love spending EVERY second with my daughter,” I said aghast. An older, wiser mom looked at me, laughed and poured herself more wine. You haven’t entered the...
2020 Destroyed My Life, So I’m Creating a New One
2020 Destroyed My Life as I Knew It. Before the 2020 pandemic, I had a committed partnership, a house in a beautiful neighborhood and a cush job in innovation where I was flown to New York to speak at conferences. As I walk out of the pandemic in Spring 2021,...
Five Awesome Things the Pandemic Has Done for Me (The Pandemefits)
The pandemic has tested my family’s sanity. We’ve turned our house into a joint office / daycare center. We multitask endless zoom calls alongside dishwasher unloading, toddler butt wiping (video off) and remote happy hours (video on)…..
Please do this one thing for me …
Please tell me you see me. Please notice my breaths and efforts. Currently I feel invisible and alone. We all do. How can you see me, you ask? What exactly should you notice? Anything, as long as it’s specific. 1. Praise me for keeping the kids alive another day. One...
How the 2020 End of Days is Slowly Killing Me
It was the end of 2020 end of days. Pantone Orange 9-2020. Images of the orange sky in California went viral. Looking at the sun confused my daughter. She thought the orb in the sky was a bleeding moon. She wanted to give it a band-aid. I didn’t know if the earth...
Am I a Masochist Mama?
“Maybe I’m just a mama masochist,” I sighed. “Isn’t this mama masochism a front?” my friend asked. She leaned her head into her screen and whispered in a low tone, “Don’t you secretly miss it? You know….your old life? Where you didn’t have to be anything for anyone?”...
Metamorphosis to Suburban Mom from Second Tier Socialite
I'm a suburban mom. Many scoff that I was really a socialite. I mean, was I really photographed at the San Francisco Opera opening night along with Gavin Newsom? Um no. But I did weave in and out of parties at the top of the Fairmont’s penthouse and across white...
‘Knocked Up’?! How I embraced a non-linear life…
“I’m hoping this is a false alarm.” I texted the positive test results to my cousin. “Holy Shit!” was her immediate response. But it wasn’t a false alarm. I was pregnant. I was pregnant, not married, in an uncertain relationship, and just started a demanding new job...
A Woman at Odds: Baby or Love?
In many parts of the world, people do not have choices. The local store carries only one brand of toothpaste. Marriages are arranged. And fertility is finite. Notions of swiping people’s faces on Tinder and freezing eggs so we can ‘focus on our career’ read like...
Egg Freezing: What They Don’t Tell You
Should corporations store our future in the freezer? Or is this giving a select few false security with a bizarre fad? Facebook and Apple’s decision to pay for women’s egg freezing has stimulated new controversy in women’s cocktail conversations. “I feel this sends a...