Just when you thought 2020 couldn’t get any worse, it did. Ruth Bader Ginsberg died. We lost a feminist, civil rights leader and icon of badass perseverance. And gained a glaring open seat on the Supreme Court. My hope for a better tomorrow vanished. I was sliding...
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Is this City Destroying our Community?
“That’s it. I’m moving to Nicaragua. With all the tech douchebags in San Francisco, there’s no community anymore,” said my friend Robert. He plopped himself down into an armchair, sighing loudly to cushion the weight of his despair. Robert had enough IPO cash to...
Unplanned pregnancies to poor performance reviews…what we reveal at work
To tell or not to tell….. 3 days before I was slated to sign my new job offer letter I had a positive pregnancy test. Would revealing this early be a wise or just weird? After all, this wasn’t exactly an anticipated pregnancy in a stable marriage (or um, any...
Five Things I am NOT Thankful For
During Thanksgiving the internet will be crowded with saccharine odes of gratitude. Well, not from me. There is plenty NOT to be thankful for and I’d like to address it. 1. Cellulite It is the gift that keeps giving… people a complex. When I was in my 20’s a beautiful...
Tell Fear to F*ck Off-4 Ways to Jumpstart a New Life
“I love her, but I’m too afraid to tell her in case she laughs.” “My real dream is to be a chef, but I’m afraid of starting over at 39.” “I have this idea…..but I’m so afraid it just won’t work.” All these were quotes I pulled from Scaredy Cats Anonymous, a dimly lit...
Why He Won’t Marry You
Every spring romance beckons. Flowers bloom, lovebirds croon, and Facebook feeds sparkle with the diamonds of recent engagements. Marriage anxiety infiltrates the city, reducing our best citizens to jittery jello as they wonder when their number will be called. Men...
Why Delhi is Better than Burning Man
If you want to truly understand humanity and the full spectrum of life experience, don’t go to Burning Man. Go to Delhi. There, the gods cut a prism to bend waves of dark and light, casting a multitude of shades that flood the city’s crevices. Life breathes hot down...
A Woman at Odds: Baby or Love?
In many parts of the world, people do not have choices. The local store carries only one brand of toothpaste. Marriages are arranged. And fertility is finite. Notions of swiping people’s faces on Tinder and freezing eggs so we can ‘focus on our career’ read like...
4 Unconventional Ways to Celebrate V-Day, Solo
It’s February. Your city has transformed into a giant lace doily. Subpar chocolates are veiled in red tinfoil and instantly marked up to a 90% margin. Restaurants create prix fixe menus with courses named like a drugstore romance novel. “Cupid’s Cutlet” and...
Finger Lickin’ Freedom: 4 Things I Love About America….
I left San Francisco as Friday’s sunset descended, hightailing it on Interstate 80 to make Tahoe for Memorial Day weekend. My speakers blasted Steely Dan and I sang along off key, hoping the wind from my open windows would enhance my soprano. My mind, once saturated...
Marry A Man Who Doesn’t Read
In the spirit of Date an Illiterate girl and to show two sides of a Sliding Doors moment, I've painted a picture of a few possible outcomes for the choices we make in love. Marry a Man Who Doesn’t Read (and Has a Nice Watch) Marry a man who doesn’t read literature. Or...
Burning Man Lessons from A Newbie
“I’ll never go to Burning Man,” I always said. “It’s full of hairy armpit hippies having orgies in the dust while hallucinating.” I loathed the people in San Francisco that called themselves “burners.” You know the type-those wide eyed patchouli wearers that made...
A Different Take on Philanthropy
Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. ~Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy I am drawn to women’s stories that change the way we think about things, from sexism to alcoholism to altruism. A new friend picked up on this and simply said,...