The Happiness Gamble: Settle or Hold Out?

The Happiness Gamble: Settle or Hold Out?

A bizarre phenomena happens when urban Americans approach their mid 30s. A frantic mob of women in white lace rush through our cities, clamoring for the altar before it is “too late.” The casual observer may mistake them for a panicked stampede of white sheep rushing...
Don’t Do This in Your 30’s

Don’t Do This in Your 30’s

It was August in San Francisco. The morning fog was so thick I wanted to spread it on my toast. I also wanted its gray shroud to smother the fact that my birthday was approaching and another year would be added to my social media profiles. “Heidi,” a friend told me...
Have Regrets? Get Over It.

Have Regrets? Get Over It.

Ten years ago I moved to San Francisco with everything I owned packed up in a Honda Civic. The value of my student loan debt far outweighed the value of my material possessions and if I didn’t find a job quickly, I’d have to pawn my shoe collection. I liked my shoes,...
Imperfectly Naked

Imperfectly Naked

Last month I received a postcard from Champasak,Vietnam. It was from my high school friend Tim. After getting his PhD from MIT, he decided to turn down lucrative offers and buy a boat to sail around the world for a few years.  “F*** what I’m supposed to do. This is...
Be Naked: A Weekend in Esalen

Be Naked: A Weekend in Esalen

Rather than juggle Memorial Day barbecues, I decided to head back down to Big Sur for the long weekend. No, this time I wasn’t going to a monastery to think impure thoughts. Rather I was going to Esalen to not think and be impure. Heading to Esalen Esalen is a...