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Building Relationships in Urban Anonymity: A Tale of Two Peruvians

Building Relationships in Urban Anonymity: A Tale of Two Peruvians

Oct 8, 2013 | Interview

Us urbanites live in a world of intimate anonymity. We routinely interact with people for years yet rarely discover more than one fact about them. For example, I knew my barista had a fetish for orange nail polish, she knew I was particular about my milk temperature...
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  • ▼ 2022
    • ▼ August
      • Why You Should Love, Not Loathe, Your Baggage
  • ▼ 2021
    • ▼ October
      • Looking for True Love? Find Your Tribe
      • How to Make a Rainbow Out Of Motherly Love
      • Is Passionate Love Worth Your Sanity?
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      • Why you Should Stop Everything and Do this ONE Thing for Success.
      • Stop Being An Angelic People Pleaser
      • What Should Your Legacy Be?
      • How to Do the Whole30 Diet with a Toddler
    • ▼ July
      • How to Survive (and Enjoy) Going to a Wedding Solo ...
      • Frazzled Coping Strategies - What to Do When You Lose your Phone (Again)
      • Are Your Memories Real, Even When Disputed by Family?
      • Is the Love for Your Child Dysfunctional? Relax, it's Normal ...
    • ▼ June
      • I Asked 13 People Who Taught Them to Love; Their Answers Will Surprise You
      • Is Resentment Poisoning Your Life? 5 Tips to Move On
      • Do You Really Suck or is it Imposter Syndrome?
      • Why You Can’t Find the One (and Why It’s Ok): Part 3
      • When People Don't Want to Hear Your Truth
    • ▼ May
      • 2020 Destroyed My Life, So I’m Creating a New One
  • ▼ 2020
    • ▼ October
      • Five Awesome Things the Pandemic Has Done for Me (The Pandemefits)
    • ▼ September
      • Five Reasons to Get to the Mountains NOW
      • Please do this one thing for me ...
      • 5 Ways I am Finding Hope after Ruth Bader Ginsburg Died
      • Releasing Unforgivable Hurts
      • How the 2020 End of Days is Slowly Killing Me
      • Am I a Corporate Sell Out?
      • Am I a Masochist Mama?
    • ▼ August
      • Metamorphosis to Suburban Mom from Second Tier Socialite
  • ▼ 2018
    • ▼ February
      • Is this City Destroying our Community?
    • ▼ January
      • How Being Less Productive Made Me More Productive
      • Three Signs You’re Too Lazy For Love
  • ▼ 2017
    • ▼ November
      • How to Give ‘Real Time Feedback’ Without Being a Jerk
      • Unplanned pregnancies to poor performance reviews...what we reveal at work
    • ▼ August
      • ‘Knocked Up’?! How I embraced a non-linear life…
    • ▼ May
      • Two Words to Increase Your Happiness
    • ▼ March
      • How Writing Weekly on Medium Changed My Life
    • ▼ February
      • Why You Should Give Your Lover an Onion
      • Women Need to Date Carpenters Like Men Date Yoga Instructors
      • Why You Can’t Find the One: Part 2
    • ▼ January
      • How a Powder Day Threatened my Friendship
      • Do We Do it For Love or Money?
      • Wanna be happy? Screw the resolutions.
  • ▼ 2016
    • ▼ December
      • What People REALLY Want for Christmas
      • Why You Can't Fall in Love Like You Want To
    • ▼ November
      • Five Things I am NOT Thankful For
      • How to Survive a Red-Blue Thanksgiving
      • The One Thing to Save Your Relationship
    • ▼ October
      • Gut Feeling? 4 Reasons NOT to Listen to It
      • Has Tech Killed Art in San Francisco?
      • 50 Shades of Ambiguity: Why the ‘Gray Zone’ is Good For You
    • ▼ September
      • Tell Fear to F*ck Off-4 Ways to Jumpstart a New Life
      • Why You Can’t Make Your Relationship Last
      • Quantity or Quality? My Blogging Struggle
      • My Family’s Gay Indian Montana Wedding
    • ▼ August
      • How to Survive Loss, Without Losing Yourself
      • Books that Change the Course of Our Lives
      • Age 40 - Half Dead or Just Starting?
      • Why Feeling Like You're Not Enough ....Is More Than Enough
    • ▼ July
      • How to Stop Feeling Like You’re Drowning — Life Tips from Ducks
      • A Critique on Critique: How to Use it, How to Lose it.
      • Wanna Be Interesting? Write in a Bar
    • ▼ June
      • Why Don't We Listen to our Gut?
      • Choice-Make One and Don't Look Back
      • 3 of the Best Life Lessons Learned from Dad
      • When Lying is Better Than Truth
    • ▼ May
      • The Naked Truth of Getting Older
      • The Talk No One Wants to Have
      • Good Naked vs. Bad Naked
      • Open Up, Close More Deals
    • ▼ April
      • Leaving Perfection - A Poem
      • To Fall Out of Love, Do This.
      • Why He Won't Marry You
      • Jump off the Career Ladder, Save Your Life
    • ▼ March
      • The Happiness Gamble: Settle or Hold Out?
      • Why You Cannot Find "The One"
    • ▼ February
      • Redefining Success
  • ▼ 2015
    • ▼ December
      • The Only Resolution You Should Make
    • ▼ November
      • The Grateful Competition
    • ▼ October
      • Why Delhi is Better than Burning Man
    • ▼ August
      • Sell Your Suitcase: 4 Reasons to Stop Traveling
    • ▼ July
      • How our 'PC' Culture is ruining us
    • ▼ May
      • A Woman at Odds: Baby or Love?
    • ▼ February
      • 4 Unconventional Ways to Celebrate V-Day, Solo
      • Why I Write
    • ▼ January
      • Release Your Mind: The Art of Memory Management
  • ▼ 2014
    • ▼ December
      • This Season, Give the Gift of TMI
    • ▼ November
      • Why You Don’t Have Community (and How to Build it)
    • ▼ October
      • Egg Freezing: What They Don't Tell You
    • ▼ September
      • When 'The One' isn’t The One (and Marries Someone Else)
    • ▼ August
      • Don't Do This in Your 30's
    • ▼ July
      • How to Fall in Love in 5 Minutes
    • ▼ May
      • Finger Lickin' Freedom: 4 Things I Love About America....
      • Addicted to Intensity*: Interview with a Serial Crisis Zone Doctor
    • ▼ April
      • Have Regrets? Get Over It.
    • ▼ March
      • New York vs. San Francisco: In Quotes
    • ▼ February
      • A Love Letter to my Liver
    • ▼ January
      • NonResolutions: NonImprovement Plans for the New Year
  • ▼ 2013
    • ▼ October
      • Marry A Man Who Doesn't Read
      • Building Relationships in Urban Anonymity: A Tale of Two Peruvians
      • How to Mess Up Your Online Identity (#FAIL)
    • ▼ September
      • My Dirty Secret
      • Burning Man Lessons from A Newbie
    • ▼ August
      • Stop Talking: Making Less More.
      • Dream Job Interview: From Hedge Funds to Mountain Peaks
    • ▼ July
      • Imperfectly Naked
    • ▼ June
      • 3 Ways To Indulge like a Parisian
    • ▼ May
      • Bringing Your 'Whole Self' To Work?!
    • ▼ April
      • Stilettos, Sexism, and Sheryl Sandberg
    • ▼ March
      • A Different Take on Philanthropy
    • ▼ February
      • Things Not Posted on Facebook
      • How to Live Life and Love it!
  • ▼ 2012
    • ▼ May
      • Be Naked: A Weekend in Esalen
    • ▼ April
      • Not Thinking About Sex in a Monastery
  • ▼ 2011
    • ▼ August
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Toasting my new niece that arrived today. Welcome Toasting my new niece that arrived today. Welcome to the world Isabelle Isern. And congrats @hansisern and @anaclaralpss . We cannot wait to snuggle her!
Best ski buddy ever! Best ski buddy ever!
When your daughter asks for a live unicorn for Chr When your daughter asks for a live unicorn for Christmas (I’m really sorry Rosie….)

#momhacks #christmasgiftsideas
Merry Christmas // Feliz Natal // Feliz Navidad Merry Christmas // Feliz Natal // Feliz Navidad 

🎄🎁❤️🍾
My life these days …. And these two ❤️❤️ My life these days …. And these two ❤️❤️
World Cup Shenanigans! #worldcup2022 #france2022 World Cup Shenanigans! #worldcup2022 #france2022
It’s a sweet type of procrastination. It’s a sweet type of procrastination.
But she IS… and YES I’m turning into a person But she IS… and YES I’m turning into a person that keeps posting photos of her puppy. And she’s judging me for that too……
After all it’s what my daughter does… and she After all it’s what my daughter does… and she takes enormous glee in it. ☔️🌦👢

#rainydays #rainydayoutfit #findinghappiness #happygirl #singlemama
My office mate for the next 15 years. This is way My office mate for the next 15 years. This is way I work now. Home. With puppy in lap….
“Eat til it ouches you” once said Granny. Oh w “Eat til it ouches you” once said Granny. Oh we did Granny. We did….
What I like waking up to. It’s good to be “hom What I like waking up to. It’s good to be “home”
It’s peak freeze time in retail… which means t It’s peak freeze time in retail… which means teams are rushing to lock all code before  the madness of holiday online shopping. It’s insane work and QA work and YET I STILL MANAGED TO GET OUTSIDE TODAY!!! Even if just for 30 mins. So so so important to be in nature during work insanity. So love that I live and work in a place that allows this.
So much fun in Fairfax!!!!!!!! #halloweencity #tr So much fun in Fairfax!!!!!!!!

#halloweencity #trickortreating
Vivi wanted to be a Spider Faerie this year. (Swip Vivi wanted to be a Spider Faerie this year. (Swipe to see pic!) Another one of her friends decided he wanted to be a “grumpy old man”. Another a cow. 

And everywhere across the US parents hustle to make costumes that represent whatever had inspired their kids. How can we continually encourage them to be whatever they wish to be? 

#singlemomstrong #creativekids_ig #halloween2022
We have a new girl in the family. Welcome Miss Kai We have a new girl in the family. Welcome Miss Kaia Rosie. Three year old Canaan Dog / Border Collie mix from Tijuana. ❤️🐾
Another SF fleet week blue angels party turned ind Another SF fleet week blue angels party turned indoors due to fog. But who needs jets when you have friends, wine and magna-tiles inside?
And…. Just like that I have a five year old. Lov And…. Just like that I have a five year old. Love you Vivi… even though you were extra sassy today. 😘
Im the new house baking birthday cupcakes with my Im the new house baking birthday cupcakes with my girl. 

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#bakingtogether #fairfaxca #birthdaygirl🎀
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